Rom Malik

Registered Psychotherapist
RP, M.Ed
Availability:
Accepting New Clients
Session Format:
In-Person SessionsOnline TherapyPhone Sessions
Office Hours:
Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday (some weekends)
Clientele:
Adults, Teens, Couples
Email Rom
  • Abuse (physical and psychological; past or present)
  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Children and Teens
  • Depression
  • Dream Work and Dream Interpretation
  • Existential Concerns
  • Health and Illness
  • Impulsiveness
  • Intergenerational Trauma
  • Life Crisis and Transitions
  • Loneliness and Isolation
  • Obsessive and Compulsive Thoughts and Behaviours
  • Relationship Issues
  • Self-Destructive Patterns
  • Self-Esteem
  • Separation and Divorce
  • Stress
  • Trauma
  • Underemployment
  • Contact Information

    Email:
    rom.malik@rogers.com
    Phone:
    416-385-7777
    Address:
    10211 Yonge Street, Ste. 206 | Richmond Hill | ON | L4C 3B3

    What we’ve experienced, we expect. In fact, those expectations can shape our perceptions of social and personal realities.

    Our early experiences foster the development of our strengths—and our symptoms. We are like sponges in our childhoods. We take in what we are told, learning about ourselves from what our parents and others tell us. We often do so uncritically. Some of it is, of course, positive and helpful, and forms our positive sense of self and our relationship to others. Some it may not be. Here, therapy can help.

    The work we do will explore any past contributions to your present issues. I have found this beneficial as often the roots of adult symptoms can be found in childhood experiences. Children often make compromises to adapt themselves to their families, which can block expression of their real self. Further, we develop defenses to deal with unpleasant feelings and anxieties, which are sometimes at the root of symptoms that interfere with living life to the fullest and remain in place for years. Much of this resides out of awareness.

    Our work together will identify past issues that are contributing to present concerns, and we work at dismantling them at their roots. Depression, anxiety, fears, self-defeating actions, and relationship troubles that stem from outdated situations can then be changed.

    Additionally, you can be assured that we will focus on your current concerns and goals, addressing what is currently causing you distress. Our work together can make an important difference in overcoming your current self-defeating patterns, work issues, relationship issues, and in dealing with emotional distress in a healthy way.

    In the initial phase of therapy, we take a look at where you came from (for couples it will be for both partners)—your life history, what led to your reaching out for help, and your goals for therapy. I’ll let you know what you can expect in this process and how this might benefit you.

    The therapy process soon shifts toward what is pressing for you in the here and now, be it relationship, work, family, or other current stressors. Aside from helping to deal with these stressors, an important goal of our work will not only be symptom reduction but to dismantle them at their roots to access new strengths and resources. This work will also make you less vulnerable to similar challenges when you face them in the future.

    Clients have reported to me feeling liberated from their symptoms, in addition to thinking more clearly, feeling supported, more self-expressed, and able to stand up for themselves. They also describe enriched relationships and a greater awareness of their real selves.

    In terms of couples therapy, couples report finding it beneficial to have the opportunity to work out the “log-jams” (e.g., past resentments and unresolved issues) that are impacting them. They also describe this work as supporting them to explore and then dismantle past issues as far back as family of origin and past partnerships that are interfering with the relationship such as communication, intimacy, etc. Partners develop a better understanding of one another as they clear away misperceptions and misunderstandings, gain tools to communicate better, and learn to argue more constructively.

    It has been immensely gratifying to make a difference to individuals as well as couples over the years.

    I have practiced full-time psychotherapy for over 25 years.

    My career began when I completed a master’s in Adult Counselling, and then I pursued a Ph.D. in Child and Adolescent Psychology, focused on childhood and adolescent development and treatment.

    For a number of years, I provided play therapy to children/teens and their families, both for school boards and in my private practice. This gratifying work helped me to understand the early development of symptoms and how to dismantle them. This work also taught me about healthy development—at all stages of life.

    The work I now do with adolescents and adults is very much based upon the experience of seeing how problematic behaviours and ineffective coping strategies can develop early, but also be transformed.

    Additionally, I have done graduate work focused on adults and couples, and have extensive clinical experience working with individuals in high-stress careers, such as policing.

    I will bring all of this experience into our work together. It is an honour to be a part of a person’s healing and growth. It is also very satisfying to have a positive impact on couples that are experiencing challenges in their relationship.

    It is important to find a therapist that works well with you. I offer a no-charge phone consultation. You can tell me what you’d like help with and what is going on, I can tell you more about my practice, and answer any questions you might have, including what you might expect in working with me.

    Currently I am seeing clients in person at my Richmond Hill office 1-2 days/week – please inquire for further details.

    Please email me at rom.malik@rogers.com so that we can find a convenient time to speak. You may also call me at 416-385-7777.

    I can be reached by phone at 416-385-7777. You may have to leave a message. I will return your call within 48 hours. You may also email me at rom.malik@rogers.com

    I offer a brief no-charge phone consultation where you can let me know what you would like help with, what led to your decision to reach out for help now, and your goals. I can tell you about the service, what you can expect in working with me, and how I can help you. We can determine if we have a good fit and go from there.