What got you to your present are feelings and events, relationships and memories—faint or strong, good or bad, no matter. You’re not the sole author of what’s led you here, but you carry it with you. Psychotherapy helps you know it better and gives you the tools to sort it out. It’s by sorting out what got you here in the first place that you may begin to cross a divide and move forward.
With that in mind, it may seem like there’s little that’s unusual about psychotherapy. You and I meet for 50 minutes once or twice a week; you talk; I listen; and together we try to make sense of what you’re struggling with and figure out how to deal with it.
In another respect, there’s even less to therapy that’s typical of your average encounter between two people. You get to say whatever is on your mind—nothing is off limits. Every now and again, I may ask a question or make an observation. In time, you’ll become comfortable enough to say things you’ve never said before, not only to others but perhaps even to yourself. You’ll also get to feel things you’ve never felt before. The novelty and surprise may be thrilling and unsettling all at once. We’re together in this. We’ll pay attention to the details and nuances. As we gather the threads that make up your history, your relationships, and dreams, a door may open onto new possibilities for being, for doing, for relating.