When the dynamic between you and someone important to you has become distant, conflicted, or otherwise dysfunctional, it can affect every aspect of your life. Healthy relationships are crucial to our well-being: every adequate picture of individual health includes the ability to form meaningful, mutually satisfying bonds with others. Couples therapy focuses on improving fragile relationships and repairing those that have been damaged by lost trust, difficult events, repeated conflict, or other differences that feel irresolvable.
Many therapists listed with Toronto Psychotherapy Group offer marriage, relationship, and couples therapy to individuals and families seeking more secure bonds with one another. Therapists listed at TPG provide more than counselling or relationship advice. Rather, they guide couples to help conflict-ridden or stalled relationships evolve. Couples therapy helps to bridge emotional distance, address negative feelings, restore meaningful connection, and build understanding of the causes of dysfunctional patterns between ourselves and our significant others.
What Is Couples Therapy?
Simply put, couples or relationship therapy involves the creation of a safe space for the exploration of relationship challenges. Common issues such as useless or hurtful arguing, poor communication, broken trust, destructive behaviour, and emotional and/or sexual distance between partners can be explored with the assistance and facilitation of a skilled therapist.
TPG relationship and couples therapists are sensitive to the need for safety and fairness in the therapeutic environment. This means that the therapist collaborates equally with all clients rather than choosing a side in their conflict. TPG couples therapists seek to appreciate each person’s perspective while offering insights and strategies based on the mutual goal of improving understanding and emotional connection between members of the couple or family.
Typically, relationship and couples therapy includes the following:
- Providing a safe place for each client to speak and be heard by the other
- Identifying recurring patterns in your conflict
- Seeking the roots of these patterns in your mutual and individual histories
- Understanding the contribution of emotion to your relationship difficulties
- Developing strategies to de-escalate and prevent these patterns from repeating
- Creating new intimacy and connection in your relationship in new ways
What Kinds of Issues Does Couples Therapy Address?
You and your partner or family member may wish to consider couples or relationship therapy if you struggle with any of the following:
- Loss of emotional closeness or intimacy
- Unproductive conflicts or fighting without resolution
- Poor communication
- Feelings of unbearable hurt or loneliness
- Fears of rejection or abandonment
- Loss of trust, respect or love after infidelity or other betrayals
- Fear of losing your sense of self in the relationship
- Sexual dissatisfaction or mismatched desires
- Difficulty coping with the effects of major life events on the relationship (e.g., birth of a child, job change or loss)
Additional Information for Those Seeking Couples Therapy
Several psychotherapists with Toronto Psychotherapy Group are trained in the practice of Emotionally Focused Therapy techniques in their work as relationship therapists. For more information about this structured approach to psychotherapy with couples and families, see its Wikipedia entry here:
Other psychotherapists listed here have trained in Stan Tatkin’s Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT®); more information about PACT can be found at stantatkin.com.